My husband and I are in a sense new at these...20 months this Saturday. After surgery for a tumor inside the spinal cord, he is paralyzed from the middle of the chest down. Paraplegic is the term he was given.
Bottom line is that when he came home 3 weeks after surgery, he had pressure sores. After 5 months dealing with our insurance company. Finally, we were assigned a nurse practitioner that came to our home to tend to his sores. Through him we were able to contact a company which leases air mattresses. We also invested in a hospital bed and a ROHO cushion for his wheel chair...It has been 14 months now from having these very essential items and no more bed sores.
Unfortunately, most insurance companies do not cover these, we have to invest on these very essential items for the sake of our loves one.
Perhaps through church, community and/or friends and family you guys can raise some money to get an air mattress and a ROHO cushion for the wheelchair. The ROHO is about a $500.00 investment, the hospital bed $1,000.00 and the air mattress is about $40.00 rental monthly. These are all necessary for the wellbeing of the paralyzed and for the sake of the caregiver.
This journey is very difficult at all stages due to the emotional part and the toll it takes on all of us. However, at the beginning it is essential to concentrate in the physical and the person who suddenly is paralyzed.
For us the air mattress and the ROHO have been proven to be essentials.
I for one, sleep next to my husband's bed in our bedroom in a folding bed. We have another room I can go to but, I can not get use to sleeping in another room. It is bad enough not to be able to sleep in the same bed after 25 years of marriage. But another room I JUST CAN'T.
I hope others have more information they can give you. But, please try to help your sister in law, I use to turn my husband every 3 hours for the first 5 months and it is very hard to do this for long. It takes a toll on the body. There are better ways and any help others can offer is always a great blessing.
Best of luck to you all, this journey is a hard one..
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