Trish, this is;t about counseling, but about your surgery .... I am not sure what your plans are, but I would let your husband fend for himself a little more that usual. Make plans for the kids ... maybe staying w. friends, reschedule the nurse to come in at bedtime, or whatever point you figure he truly cannot be left alone any longer, and then when you come home, go right to bed. It may be the only way he is going to figure out that, NO, you aren;t making dinner, or all the little things he needs.
eta ..... obviously, I realize that you can;t completely leave him w.o care until "tomorrow" or anything, But let him be "inconvenienced" at least .... I believe he stays alone for some periods of time?
T 7-8 since 2005
