I'm so sorry that your son had this accident, and I know words can never express our sadness, however my husband actually is paralyzed from a motorcylce accident 25 years ago, he was a young man too, only 20, and actually two weeks before his 21st birthday. My husband and I would love to talk and share our experiences with your son, and let him know that although this happened, there is such a great life ahead of him. I know it's hard to understand at this time, but trust me, if he gets involved with other kids, he will see his life will be different than it was, but it still can be great! He has to remember that he is still the same person prior to this accident, his heart and emotions are what makes a person, and that should not change becuase he's sitting in a chair. I'm not sure if he can feel or not, my husband can't, but both of us would never in a million years change our lives. We are blessed to have a beautiful life.