lovnlife2day:
I am not sure what I should be doing...that is why I need input. My youngest son who is 19 just got married in February of this year. His wife is 19 as well. They decided they couldn't wait to get married, even though I tried talking them into waiting a few more years. They were "right" for each other. My daughter in law is a wonderful girl and I could not have asked for a better person to marry my son and enter our family. The problem has been with my son. Since they have gotten married he has done a complete turn around in his attitude. He has stopped going to church, starting hanging out with his old friends and is sometimes downright mean to her in his actions and talk. He is starting to act like he is single again. I told him that if he wanted to run around he should have gotten that out of his system before he got married. My DIL comes to our house all upset and confides things in me that he says to her or tells me that he went out with his friends and didn't get home until late. I feel like I am in the middle. I tell her she needs to talk to him and tell him how she feels. I have tried talking to my son but don't feel like I can tell him much since she tells me in confidence. Please help me give some good advice.
I would encourage her to continue to attend church and to perhaps speak with the pastor or another woman at church as well, to gain some perspective.
Because she's young, maybe she tells you these things because your his mother...you should be able to parent him. But because she's young she perhaps doesn't fully understand her role nor does he apparently.
The best advice I can tell you is this: listen to her and pray. Don't turn her away, but don't talk to your son unless he asks for your advice, he'll only be mad at her for talking to you and vice versa.
The best advice you can give her is to pray.
~~Its me, Jane.
