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I hear ya about being lost. I'm still struggling with my future ex and trying to find God's wisdom and purpose in all of this. I've spent the past month or 2 drifting in and out of his graces. Every time I start to feel like things will be okay I start drifting from Him and fall into my old lustful ways. I'm starting to get the picture and ...

Hey buddy, are you still around? You've given me some great advice before and I could really use some now.

Dude, what are you doing? First, this sounds like a pitch for your website. Second, you do know you're on a Christian forum don't you? We all make mistakes and I'm certainly not one to say that I've never slipped and had a one night stand that I regretted in the morning - although I regretted it because of my actions and sin rather than because my ...

Wow, How do you guys do it...how do you hold on to hope and keep going. My spouse left about 3 months ago. We have an 8 month old and I meet her to see him several times a week but we never talk about us and other than that there is no contact. It appears that she is done. She doesn't wear her rings and seems to be chasing other guys. I find myself

Hey Dude,I'm probably the worst person to offer advice - I'm on the verge of my 2nd divorce. But I can say that being in the position I'm in makes you realize things from a different perspective, so I'll offer what I know from experience, both from my divorce(s) and from my reliance on God.First of all, undoubtedly yes, your marriage can be ...

Hi,I posted initially posted this in the Men's Forum and have received some great support and advice from NIV, but I feel like I also need a woman's perspective. If you wouldn't mind, could you please offer me some insight and/or advice; thank you in advance for reading/responding.I was initially married for about 10 years when my wife (who was 36 ...

Once again NIV, you are the man. You're right, I really don't think I should start dating again. I mean, if I did, wouldn't that essentially be giving up on my marriage and, therefore, giving up on God - or at least be limiting in His will? I think walking down that path would set me on a track away from my wife and away from the very thing I'm ...

Once again NIV, thanks for the comments. A lot of the time I find myself in disbelief. I find myself sitting there thinking: I don't understand this, I don't understand this, I DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS!!! How can a woman of faith do this???? Jesus says that if you sit with him in prayer He'll talk with you and tell you things you do not know. All I ...

Hey NIV, Thanks for all the great advice. Yea, this is my second divorce but it hurts just like the first. It's not something that gets easier with practice. If anything, its worse - I feel like twice the failure, twice the loss and even more ''unmarketable:'' than I did after my 1st divorce. It's to the point where I really think it's a problem ...

Thanks for all your help NIV. It's nice to hear that I'm not as alone as I thought I was. Your insight really helps. I can't believe that God won't stir her heart and spank her like he's spanking me. I don't have anyone else in my sights. I'm not nearly ready for that. Not for a while. I was married for almost 3 years so I should only have to wait ...

One more thing, check out the link NIV gave me on my post - it's a great article.

Okay NIV, I'll wait. I know God works in His own time and that He says to wait patiently for Him to come. That's really hard though. I need to continue to pray and seek Him. I don't want to go against His teachings when it comes to moving on to other relationships and I believe that if 2 Christians divorce for reasons other than adultery that ...

My wife isn't wearing her ring either and she's always worn one of those heart rings that signals if your taken or not depending on how you wear it - she's wearing it like she's single. She separated our money 3 days after she left and moved all her stuff out this past weekend. So I know where you are. Just remember that God doesn't need your help.