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I've been following this thread off and on, over the past weeks.  It's so reminiscent of my experience with my ex-wife.  Factor in legal complications and such to what you've shared here, and it really is a big mess. I hope you're keeping documentation of interactions you've had with her (email, texts, etc.).  Send copies to ...

I have to agree with flguy that there is a huge disparity in the way that the church, on the whole, handles this sin in comparison to other sins.  I have to also agree that not only does the church have a tendency to respond differently to women dealing with this sin than they do men dealing with the same; they also fail to acknowledge the ...

chaz345: another name: But it's a well known trait of wives that they are usually the first to be aware of some lack in the marriage. That is why the wife's side of the bed will sport a range of relationship books, while the husband's  side has none, unless she has given it to him, and then he's not likely to read it. Not unless she hammers ...

There is a website: www.settingcaptivesfree.com They really helped me by showing HOW to apply God's Word specifically to this, forming a plan, a battle plan for the thoughts, the heart, and the material possessions at home and at work that present hard obstacles like the ones you're dealing with.  It's a 60-day program, complete witha ...

formerlyalpha:The woman has an awareness of the accumulated hurts from the entire duration of the marriage. The man does not. So even if his wife has hurt him, he can get over it, he is prepared to start anew, letting the past be put to rest with out raking it over. He wants to shake hands and make a new beginning. She can't. And whatever he ...

formerlyalpha:Yes, Chaz, Wives can't understand how a man can forget about the argument they had at breakfast, and then in the evening carry on as if nothing had happened. But she does not need to understand that for the man to function O K as a husband. The reverse is a different story. If he does not understand her take on life there will ...

Renae610:Thanks for sharing that, HotIce.  That is a good explanation.  Your last paragraph especially-- yes, that's it!!... good!! Here's an example I'm trying to process. A male friend of mine was working on a project in the garage one afternoon this past week. His elderly mother didn't go to the senior center as was previously planned

Renae610:See, men are different than women emotionally and deal with stress differently. Women release stress all day long through talk, journaling, prayer, exercise, and numerous other ways.  If we are hurting, talking it out can give us some relief.  I don't think it works that way emotionally for men. The ''do nothing''  or ...

chaz345:Then there's the problem that complex is so often considered to be better. We've got all sorts of things that are constantly telling us to try to understand women, to try to do it their way, and little to nothing telling women to do it our way. Sure their are ''understand your man'' types of things, but the huge majority of them talk ...

chaz345: formerlyalpha:So that's why boys are so uncommunicative! This may seem nitpicky but the explanation says nothing about why males are uncommunicative. It explains that they are uncommunicative ABOUT EMOTIONS.  There is a difference.  Leaving the statement as uncommunicative in general can imply an inferiority rather than a ...

Brother, I've not been posting here recently, but have read several of your posts, and have been groaning for you.  I'll be praying as well, but wanted to make sure to at least try to be of help to you: My divorce was final four months ago, and has many parallels with this situation.  I'm praying right now, against both bias and delusion