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We attended a ''Dot Com Conference'' last night at church.
I learned a few things - most notably, I'm going to switch our home computers from Internet Explorer over to Firefox. Firefox has a MUCH more robust set of add ons than IE - things like ad blockers, filters, etc. I actually didn't believe him last night - I thought he was ...
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TimD65:Holton{sic}, I have felt that the Romans verse cited alluded to a continual pattern of sinning not a specific, on time, sudden act. Although a single act of premeditated sin in hopes that God's grace would ultimately prevail could also apply, I suppose. And I also agree that this an issue of the heart.
I agree that the verses in Romans can
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TimD65: Does this apply to future sins? If we know we are about to sin and ask for forgiveness immediately prior to committing the sin, are we forgiven? As in ''God, forgive me'' a split second before you pull the trigger. or run the stop sign or what ever.
I don't believe it is quite so simple as ''yes'' or ''we're forgiven for all sin.'' ...
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I agree. I think talking to a counselor is a great idea. I think it would be good for your husband on his own, and good for you to both sometimes attend.
If you call around, you may find a local church with a fulltime paid counselor, and your payment would be ''giving'' rather than an actual fee.
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BerthaAgain:I am trying to be compassionate, but am finding it very difficult. I just wanted this MRI done, and the results to come back showing him he was free & clear of tumors...mostly because he's been stressting about this since the MRI was scheduled. Once we got answers, then he could move past that. NOW we can't...not ...
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Counseling with a professoinal counselor.
Talking to the pastor of your church, or the marriage/relationship pastor if you have one.
Getting connected with a marriage-mentoring couple from your church - some older couple who has worked through difficulties and stayed married and are willing to help you.
You don't say a lot in your post - but it ...
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Hey all. Just curious what some other parents have dealt with and decided to do.
Our oldest child is a 12 year old daughter. We let her have an email account a few years ago... we know the password (she knows we know) and we do keep tabs.
We home school, but she does attend a home school ''academy'' once a week that is a ''regular ...
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Have the two of you made a pledge to each other that you will NOT get a divorce?
I'm not talking about your marriage vows. I'm talking about right now, in the midst of the troubles you're having.
The two of you should sit down, acknowledge that your relationship is tough and you don't know right now how to fix everything, ...
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confused555:Am I wrong for wanting answers? Should I just hang in limbo and hope things work out? I just donโt know what to do. Is she just doing this hoping I will say ok fine lets divorce, or does she truly not know? Any Ideas?
I don't think you're wrong for *wanting* answers. But I think it is the wrong ...
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confused555:One counselor told me to ask myself what are my motivations to decide if I should do or say something I am thinking about. It seems like that only works some of the time cause the answer could go either way.
I believe ''is it Loving'' is a great question to stop and ask yourself. I try to do it.
As for the counselor's ...
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patrickmcb:I have recently finish a bible college class on the Book of Revelation. During the study and the discussion of Babylon the Lord shows me how pervasive pagan idolatry is and how permissive the Christian community is about it. As today is Halloween and it is open season on Christmas, I am troubled by the coming holidays.God's ...
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Hey Jane,
I've not used Quicken extensively.
Just as with any canned software, how well it will work for you depends on your committment to following its rules and sticking to the program day after day.
We tried to use a budgeting tool (don't remember which one), and the problem for *us* was that a lot of our expenses just didn't fall ...
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I'll reiterate what I've said a couple of times before - I think you are WAY over-thinking all of this.
I think you are under the pretense that there are things you can do to 'fix' all of this and somehow cause a dramatic change in your wife's thinking.
I understand what you're thinking, and why. I know what it all feels like.
But you
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What about getting a hairier fiancee?
http://www.coastathletics.org/2005/fun_web_05/Fun%20Stuff%20II/images/hairy%20back.jpg
Soaking in Rogaine?
Sometimes less is more.
Rather than trying to actually make him look a lot like a flying monkey, go minimalist - the bellboy hat, tail, wings, tie a banana around his neck, some face ...
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The ''Celebrate'' program is Celebrate Recovery. Several posts ago I recommended you find a program and start immediately. I reiterate that recommendation.
As for meds.... I believe they have their place. I'd talk to your counselor and I'd make an appointment and talk to your doctor. Being on an anti-depressant ...
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Confused,
I believe you are focused too much on details. You are focused on and reacting to every little change in your wife and every little thing she says.
She is obviously emotionally confused and understandably unstable. First, she finally takes the step to stand up to you and say she is no longer going to put up with the way ...
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Renae610:He is single-minded, whether he's working or in his down-time of de-stressing and recreation. And once he starts back to ''work'', he puts his whole soul into it. It it his identity and he can't have any interruptions. Right Chaz?
*I* don't agree with this. Please note, I didn't say you are ...
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You seek that approval because you are incredibly co-dependent, which is also why you are so controlling.
Your *own* opinion of yourself depends on what you believe others think of you. And that verbal gushing approval - such as you wanting your wife to go on and on about the jacket - is a very tangible way for you to feel she values ...
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pooh girl:I think the nothing part that knawed at me was the idea that a man does nothing or is thinking about nothing because it's the way he is made notion and has that as an excuse when something is needed and instead nothing is given?
I agree with you - ''that's the way I''m made'' is not a valid excuse for failing to do something that needs ...
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I obviously don't know anything about your son, but I can tell you what happened with my daughter.
She was having similar reactions as your son to Sunday School and Awana last fall (when she'd just turned 4). Every morning she'd ask if today was the day she ''had to'' go to church.
My wife and I had been missing our own adult Sunday ...
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I would go with your gut instinct that right now is NOT the right time to deluge her with additional revelations and apologies.
I'm talking about timing, sensitivity and being realistic, not deception.
Continue working to change to become and BE a better man. You don't have to specifically confess every wrong-doing and dysfunctional ...
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I have not read the book.
I *have* heard many interviews with Dungy, and I know he is a favorite of Focus on the Family. And I've read reviews of this book.
I think it would be an appropriate book for a teen boy.
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You can't actually stop a tantrum. If that is what she chooses to do, that's what she's going to do.
Given that you can't stop it, then....
At home, tell her calmly that you understand she is upset, but what she's doing isn't all right, and if she is going to throw a fit she needs to be in her room. Then put her there. If ...
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Stop saying and doing anything for affect, even if it is with good intentions.
I believe if you thought about it, you could understand why she could be resentful.
Stop trying to convince her of anything. I believe that if you continue pressing the issues right now all you will achieve is to push her further away.
The best thing you ...
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So Chaz, you obviously got unbanned. Nice to see you. What's the story? I haven't been on here much lately - life got busy. So, apologies if I missed some explanatory post from you. I didn't see such in a search.
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heartstoGod:and has told me that the only resolution to this is for us to separate. no, thankfully, he has not tried to tell me that all red-blooded men ''do'' this.
[You say] You know for a fact that he clandestinely watches women in ways that cross the line to criminal activity; you've confronted him regarding this behavior; and ...
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dallasapple:Because I hate to be cynical but if she has access to his navel hair and they are alone long enough to give each other hickies they are well on their way to having sex Jane.Or like you said..even everything but vaginal penetration.If she had time to give him a hickey..and she has access to his 'belly button'' then she has opportunity ...
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What do you mean by ''peeping''?
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First of all - good for your husband that he's making that time for the two of you, and good for you for recognizing his commitment to your marriage.
I know it isn't spontaneous and perhaps not classically romantic, but you should schedule time for sex just like you schedule time for anything else. Counselors I've talked to and books on ...
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michaelandtiffanymiller:I am placing a very important claim of Christmas morning this year because my oldest will be 3 and youngest will be one and we purchased a train table to set up for him and have ready for Christmas morning.
We made the choice long ago that we'd be home for Christmas as long as our kids were ''young'' and believe in ...
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Reality - we have four kids (oldest 12, youngest 11 months), we homeschool, and sometimes, SOMETIMES, my wife likes to take a shower. So, I wait around in the morning watching our baby while the other kids get ready for the day and my wife showers.
Blessing - with my job, getting in closer to 8:30am rather than 8am isn't a big deal.
Reality
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I don't think the suggestion to get a gun is a joke... ? But either way, I wouldn't do that.
I believe you have full reason to leave - physical violence is absolutely wrong and should not be tolerated to any degree.
The question of divorce isn't so easy, and maybe you want to talk about that as well here.
But as for leaving, ...
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There is often an element of irrationality to feelings, but that doesn't matter. Your feelings are your feelings and your husband should acknowledge, respect and consider them. That doesn't mean that his every action in every circumstance should be driven by your feelings. But at the very least, the two of you ...
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If you don't want to take another ''drug'' to help you sleep, there are a couple of natural alternatives.
First, and likely the one even your doctor would recommend first if you asked for a natural solution, is Melatonin. It is the chemical naturally produced by the brain to help induce sleep. It is triggered, at least partially, by ...
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boatmen:... will I get banned because it's not popular?
Getting banned from this site has nothing to do with one's opinions being popular or unpopular.
It has consistently been based on the way one treats others.
People get banned when they consistently call people derogatory names, imply they possess low intelligence, question or ...
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I don't agree that you should have discussions about specific incidents past.
What I would do is talk to him about setting some consistent FAMILY guidelines and rules.
Don't make it about your biological son ''against'' his; don't make it about the differences you've seen in the past.
Work on creating an environment that is consistent ...
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1hart:You might also enjoy โThe Shackโ by W. P. Young
We just got The Shack. My wife has started reading it, I've not yet started. I am in the middle of The Five Languages of Apology, by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas. Chapman wrote The Five Love ...
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formerlyalpha:The bans seem to come in groups, separated by months of no activity. There was a clutch of them in September last year, and now 3 this August. Like a pressure cooker that blows steam now and then, without rhyme or reason.
I don't think any banishments are random or without reason.
I do believe the overriding mood and/or emotional ...
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DelDude:Holten - herein lies the issue on this site - your and others rejection of a fellow Christian seeking guidance. No sarcasm - clear observation.
Observation perhaps. But not clear.
YOU have not been rejected and are not being rejected and people here remain open to helping you with your issue *if* you'd ...
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Holten:I think there is definitely some ''self-fulfilling prophecy'' here.
Abraham Lincoln said ''Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.'' And the converse is also true - most people will be as miserable as they decide to be.
And THIS gets at the heart of the difference between how we ''feel'', whether we ...
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It isn't a question of whether feelings are right or wrong. Feelings just ARE. They happen, sometimes faster than we can even give preliminary thought to the circumstances.
Positive and negative: happiness, anger, jealously, pride, resentment, excitement, fear.
(I think fear is by far the MOST 'felt' feeling and is at the root ...
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DelDude:Dallas - I didn't realize you also play the games of the other posters.
Tsk tsk.
DelDude:I chose to come to this website because I thought a ''Family'' website, one with similar values as our sister (of course, just an assumption based her employment) would be able to provide an insight we were just not ...
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DelDude:
I wouldn't know - she refuses to communicate. Strange family values - as I said - dysfunctional.
If your family is dysfunctional why do you not only reject the advice of people here on this ''family site'', but also imply that it is we who are somehow failing to reflect biblical family perspectives?
You don't accept your ...
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formerlyalpha:The link between financial stress and marriage stress is well proven, so if tithing is putting pressure on the stability of a marriage, then it has become an implement of destruction, and not of blessing.
I agree completely about the connection between financial problems and marital problems. No question.
But the ...
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It is a leap of faith to believe that God will provide when I just can't make the numbers work. But when WE have been faithful, HE has been Faithful and good to His Word.
I've seen firsthand the way God works (at least with us) regarding finances.
The short story is, it would take, literally, not being able to feed my children, before we'd ...
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Congratulations on a great accomplishment!
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