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  • Re: Do you wear your wedding band?

    My husband didnt wear his for a while becasue he works on computers(including the hardwear) and the ring kept scraping up on the parts inside..Then he ''out grew it''(it didnt fit his hand anymore)..So he went and bout a new band that fit and wastn as bulky(the one I gave him had foour diamonds in it)..and now again he has out grown it. It used ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 22, 2009
  • Re: newlywed on brink of divorce

    GettinBye2day:Ya all are gross &nbsp; Why thank you! &nbsp; Thats sweet of you to say! &nbsp; Love Dallas
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 14, 2009
  • Re: Blue Jeans

    Gabby50: Any of you gals have a hard time finding jeans that fit decently, that don't look trashy? So - I have a ''middle aged'' figure (aaack!). Not a size 2 (darn), and I don't like to wear them tight. I'm an active person (doh!), and I need to be able to move comfortably in my clothes. The only jeans I have right now - 2 pairs, since I hate ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 14, 2009
  • Re: Birds!

    GettinBye2day: Franklin and I shoot birds and we like to eat birds. Not huming birds but doves and quails and those kinds. What a good thing for us to do because we both love to do it. &nbsp; We always joke we cant go hunting if we are mad cause we have guns. &nbsp; OH I see.. &nbsp; We only eat chickens and turkeys.. &nbsp; But thats
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 14, 2009
  • Birds!

    O.K so there are birds everywhere.. &nbsp; I watch them...they ''congregate''..and they ''fight''.Differnt breeds..I even have a hummingbird who visits my window..I trick myself into believieng the bird is coming to see me when I know its the sugar water..(red sugar water)... &nbsp; Its interesting watching them.All breeds manage ..When it ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 14, 2009
  • Re: newlywed on brink of divorce

    Leeza10:#1 and #2&nbsp; i dont care what anyone say but no man can go with out drainin there lizard. THEY CAN GO WITHOOT SEX BUT NOT DRAINING HIS&nbsp;PACKAGE!!! &nbsp;sinse he wont have sex with you well then he is oviously boppin his boloney. i arguad and arguad with peeple here that a man can never have sex, but also never drain his lizard ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 14, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    BcauseHeLives: Dallas, you are awesome!&nbsp; Thank you! I can get the tomatoes from my inlaws garden, we get all the free eggs we can eat from their chickens &amp; really everything you shared is very reasonable in price.&nbsp; So if I eat this stuff over time I'll stop craving sugar?&nbsp; That would be awesome.&nbsp; My inlaws are notorious
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 12, 2009
  • Re: Teen son and girlfriend

    This is a tuff one.. I would stress to your son the gruesome details of the pain and agony of a breakup when you have been very physically intimate or had sex.I would stress to him that it may be hard for him to believe but the odds they will be together forever are slim to none.And at that age the odds are it won't be a mutual decison.It will be ...
    Posted to Parenting Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 12, 2009
  • Re: Help!! My 3 year old goes crazy!!

    I agree with all the wonderful advice so far.One other thing dont let him see you are visibly frustrated.You have to be the calm one. And consistency as everyone has noted is definately key.You said you tried this and that..if he is 3 you put him in time out for 3 minutes..run a timer and then once the child has stayed in the time out for 3 ...
    Posted to Parenting Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 11, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    BcauseHeLives: No please, PAHLEEZE ramble Dallas!&nbsp; You've hit on some things I struggle w/BIG time.&nbsp; Sugar &amp; all that jazz.&nbsp; I know, know, know I need to change my diet, but it's difficult to find reasonbly priced healthy foods here. Recently one of our grocery stores started stocking glutten free foods...3 whole isles worth ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 10, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    BcauseHeLives: My oldest was on Lexapro for a time but it was so incredibly expensive!&nbsp; She went back on the Prozac &amp; stuck with it &amp; it worked well for her. Best &amp; Dallas do you mind me asking what you pay for Lexapro?&nbsp; If Prozac doesn't work I'd like to try it but I'm not sure we can afford it w/the upcoming private ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 10, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    (((HUGS)))) I took Effexor and it made me feel horrible while I was taking it.It made my hands tremble and I broke out in sweats.. I also took prozac..TBH&nbsp;I have taken so many differnt Ad's that I cant remember most of them except the ones that I had a really bad reaction too.Prozac didnt cause me much trouble it seems to my probably brain ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on September 10, 2009
  • Re: tolerance for stepchildren

    bestofky: BerthaAgain: I'm back...I'm distraught and usually seem to feel better after chatting with folks here. This is again about my h's lack of tolerence for our 15 yr. old (my bio-son, his step-son).&nbsp; It's ever more noticable after seeing the gushing of tolerance towards his 3 bio-kids, my stepkids.&nbsp; Last week my son was ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 26, 2009
  • Re: tolerance for stepchildren

    QUOTE: What I would do is talk to him about setting some consistent FAMILY guidelines and rules.&nbsp;&nbsp; END QUOTE This is what I was really getting at ..So there is no question or confusion about the specific incidences of any kind of violation of rules with each child.And so that there isnt an imablance of what each childs responsiblites ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 26, 2009
  • Re: tolerance for stepchildren

    The only thing I could suggest is that you point this out to him but with the mind frame that he isnt doing this intenionally and just doesnt realize hes apparently showing favortism to certain kids. I would point out to him some of the specific times like you have here.Especially the one where he got up to reprimand for noise and there wasnt even
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 26, 2009
  • Re: stale

    This place has been pretty boring for a long time honey.The only reason I hang around is a few people I dont want to lose track of.You (or I) definately dont come here for the entertainment or variety of subjects. &nbsp; You come here to pray for people and make any important announcements in your life. &nbsp; Love &nbsp; Dallas
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 23, 2009
  • Re: Is Your Thought Life a Blessing or a Curse?

    I just read the title... &nbsp; My thought life is both a blessing and and curse.Its all bad sometimes and others its all good. I will say the bad toughts wear on me.The good ones elate me.I try and I try but the bads ones edge their way in. &nbsp; BUT with practice makes perfect.!!! Never give up! Love Dallas
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 22, 2009
  • Re: Boundaries with children

    Oh my gosh..(((HUGS))) I feel so horrible for all of ya'll but especially those children. They have to be in a constant state of&nbsp;turmoil and bittrness and hardened hearts and children should be allowed to be ''carefree''..She is training them to hate. Your description makes me think of a little carefree&nbsp;puppy dog that someone trains ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 21, 2009
  • Re: Poohgirl requests your prayers

    Pooh... I understand the quiet part ..its almost like a blanket that covers you and soothes you.. (((HUGS))) Love Dallas
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 21, 2009
  • Re: I must of missed something???

    I assume I am also one of the ''emotionally vulnerble'' ones Alpha is refferring to..I also did NOT report Chaz or DIC..You can ask BHL ..I emailed her and was very surprised they got banned.I had very mixed emotions about that but overall It made me feel bad and I did think it was excessive if it was solely based on that one thread. And same as ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 21, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    TD&amp;H: dallasapple:Its non of my business if someone is born gay..Just like its none of their business Im born heterosexual is all I have to say about that. I myself am ''rejected'' because I do not feel that homosexuals are hurting anyone.Not anymore than any other individual(all included)&nbsp;that hurts someone. Love Dallas This is ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 20, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Boat Man... &nbsp; I also dispute that he has been rejected.It quite frankly feels like its the other way around. Love Dallas
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 20, 2009
  • Re: Poohgirl requests your prayers

    pooh girl:Thanks best &amp; pears for your thoughts and prayers! We need prayer for sure! This is the hardest thing and painful. I believe in prayer and I know that God and the support of everyone will get us through all of this. May our Lord grant us his strength and wisdom. May God heal my mother if it is his will. Today they will tell us how ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 20, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Pete NIce:Why is it taking you people so long to realize that DelDude is gay? Not that there's anything wrong with that. &nbsp; Please dont call me ''you people'' ..and that was one of my first thoughts. It wont be confirmed though I doubt. But if that is the ''case'' rejection of him is not the way to go. I actually dont ''fit in here'' on ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 20, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    DelDude, This is not a self righteous statement only an obseravtion and only my opinion based on how you have conducted your self here and how it looks or feels to ME(only me) You seem on the defensive..you seem guarded..you seem unwilling to grant any posters here any understanding why they might inquire as to specifics but rather ready to ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 19, 2009
  • Re: Actions: guided from Thinking, or Feeling

    formerlyalpha:Yes dallas, our emotions can lead us to do admirable things. But often we struggle with feelings that direct us to do things we regret, and then have to try and justify. I think that when we justify those kind of emotions we will never be able to deal with them.Since God created us with that emotional capacity, it is not wrong to ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    DelDude: dallasapple: I think what it boils down to is there is nothing you can do.If she wants to reject you she will reject you and thats the end of it. The only thing I can imagine you can do is make it clear to her that is not how you want it and your door is open to her if she ever decides to accept you...and you will accept her ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    DelDude: dallasapple: I think what it boils down to is there is nothing you can do.If she wants to reject you she will reject you and thats the end of it. The only thing I can imagine you can do is make it clear to her that is not how you want it and your door is open to her if she ever decides to accept you...and you will accept her ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: The Final Countdown!

    YAY!!! &nbsp; My youngest starting 8th grade on Monday next..and my middle starting first semester college(community) end of August (FINALLY!! HE TOOK THE PROVERBIAL YEAR OFF!!!)./... Just spent $800 for his books and $500 for his classes(10 hours just under full time)...I KNOW not expensive but its like (SHOCK) His behiny better be dedicated ...
    Posted to Parenting Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Gabby50: I thought that's what had happened, Dallas - I was getting server errors also... I am a little uneasy about this ''rejection'' stuff. On the one hand, if the sis is really rejecting Deldude for no reason, that isn't right. And if that's the case, he can't ''force'' the issue. He needs to pray for her and be as nice as possible whenever ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Sorry for the multiple entries..I kept getting server errors.I wanted to make sure my post went through and BOY HOW IT DID!! LOL! Love Dallas
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Gabby50: (shrug) I have known people who say that they feel ''rejected'' if family members don't attend *every* family event, even events that take place in the extended family. Or my mother who feels ''rejected'' if my dh and I don't follow her advice about how to ''do'' our marriage. Things like that. When there are only a few details given, ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Gabby50: (shrug) I have known people who say that they feel ''rejected'' if family members don't attend *every* family event, even events that take place in the extended family. Or my mother who feels ''rejected'' if my dh and I don't follow her advice about how to ''do'' our marriage. Things like that. When there are only a few details given, ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Gabby50: (shrug) I have known people who say that they feel ''rejected'' if family members don't attend *every* family event, even events that take place in the extended family. Or my mother who feels ''rejected'' if my dh and I don't follow her advice about how to ''do'' our marriage. Things like that. When there are only a few details given, ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Gabby50: (shrug) I have known people who say that they feel ''rejected'' if family members don't attend *every* family event, even events that take place in the extended family. Or my mother who feels ''rejected'' if my dh and I don't follow her advice about how to ''do'' our marriage. Things like that. When there are only a few details given, ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Gabby50: (shrug) I have known people who say that they feel ''rejected'' if family members don't attend *every* family event, even events that take place in the extended family. Or my mother who feels ''rejected'' if my dh and I don't follow her advice about how to ''do'' our marriage. Things like that. When there are only a few details given, ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Gabby50: (shrug) I have known people who say that they feel ''rejected'' if family members don't attend *every* family event, even events that take place in the extended family. Or my mother who feels ''rejected'' if my dh and I don't follow her advice about how to ''do'' our marriage. Things like that. When there are only a few details given, ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Gabby50: (shrug) I have known people who say that they feel ''rejected'' if family members don't attend *every* family event, even events that take place in the extended family. Or my mother who feels ''rejected'' if my dh and I don't follow her advice about how to ''do'' our marriage. Things like that. When there are only a few details given, ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    Gabby50: I've been reading this thread and shaking my head...and biting my tongue (fingers?) to keep from responding. I can't resist any longer... I would like to know what the sis is doing to reject this poster...specific examples...Someone else said that there are two sides to every story, and that is so true. Perhaps sis is merely setting ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    luv&amp;peace: Wow....everyone is being so nice.&nbsp; Deldude, you are not making any sense...what do you want to hear?&nbsp; that you're right and she's wrong....well OK then...She's a fake like all of us Christians and you are perfect!&nbsp; Rejecte ME! Sorry everyone, just got really frustrated....I don't think this person came here for ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: my husband's job

    I love happy endings..(or conclusions to be exact). YAY!!! Love Dallas
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: "Loving" Rejection of Siblings

    I think what it boils down to is there is nothing you can do.If she wants to reject you she will reject you and thats the end of it. The only thing I can imagine you can do is make it clear to her that is not how you want it and your door is open to her if she ever decides to accept you...and you will accept her back. That is how&nbsp;I would ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: Should a Christian ever advise someone that they should divorce?

    StillHopeful123:i wish someone would have told me not to get married. it's almost if ''married'' is a secret society where all members know how terrible it is, but won't stop others from joining. ''we are so happy for you!'' what a joke. Also I wanted to add I do agree with this to the extent I have described.But how does this explain why a ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: Should a Christian ever advise someone that they should divorce?

    StillHopeful123:i wish someone would have told me not to get married. it's almost if ''married'' is a secret society where all members know how terrible it is, but won't stop others from joining. ''we are so happy for you!'' what a joke. The thing is though that many people who get married this very day..had parents in bad marriages and a lot ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 18, 2009
  • Re: Should a Christian ever advise someone that they should divorce?

    formerlyalpha:Stllhopeful,&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; This week I was listening to Gary Smalley talking to James Dobson about marriage. As you probably know, the Smalley's have established the Smalley Relationship Centre.(The Smalleys specialize in mending ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 17, 2009
  • Re: newlywed on brink of divorce

    I would wonder to if he has a physical problem .I mean the fact that ya'll have a good relationship otherwise it just wouldnt make sense that he would never want to have sex at all.The fact that he doesn't seem to miss it would fit in with that too.If you have next to no or even zero drive you arent ever struggling so its a non issue.Its like ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by dallasapple on August 17, 2009
  • Re: What to do in a verbally abusive marriage

    jr83: Hi bestofky, Thanks for your advice.&nbsp; Just to answer your questions towards the end.&nbsp; We are very involved in church since he is on staff. Which is why I apsolutely have no one at church to talk to. I asked him today why he says <