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  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    Ky Wildcat: hoplon:Regarding scriptural interpretation there is much to say. To begin with the majority of Christians today have opted for some of the many watered down versions of the&nbsp;Bible available today.&nbsp;Few self confessed Bible believing Christians really know the word, and fewer still have a good working knowledge of the ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on November 19, 2009
  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    hoplon: &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Regarding scriptural interpretation there is much to say. To begin with the majority of Christians today have opted for some of the many watered down versions of the&nbsp;Bible available today.&nbsp;Few self confessed Bible believing Christians really know the word, and fewer still have a good working knowledge of the ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on November 18, 2009
  • Re: Are You Becoming Like Noah?

    By living a life that was pleasing to God even when just about everyone around him was not. He warned the people of God's anger in their evil ways.&nbsp; He let them know that they needed to turn away from their evil ways &amp; live lives that were pleasing to God or face God's wrath.&nbsp; Not only did he preach obedience (righteousness) to God
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on November 17, 2009
  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    flguy: JaneFW:Not ALL men are tempted by porn, or give in to that temptation.&nbsp; Some men abuse alcohol, some men are addicted to drugs, some men are violent, some men steal .. (and some women do those things too.)&nbsp; I just don't see that it is God's ''fault'' that men use porn.&nbsp; God didn't invent porn, men did (and women).&nbsp; ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on November 6, 2009
  • Re: Prom theme ideas?

    Thx for the ideas! :)&nbsp; (You crack me up Jane!) I shared the ideas w/her.&nbsp; They met yesterday &amp; right now it's between a Pirates of the Carribean theme or something about a dream.&nbsp; Some of the boys want a John Deere Green theme...ha!&nbsp; My husband said he votes for that one...the senior boys were all for it...the senior girls ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on November 6, 2009
  • Prom theme ideas?

    My daughter is part of the prom committee at school.&nbsp; I suggested The Garden of Eden, but she said no one would vote yes for it.&nbsp; Any ideas?
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on November 4, 2009
  • Re: Anyone Have Good News? Lets Hear it!

    mzjh20: Brothers and Sisters in Christ, I'm fairly new to this board, and have grown to love it. This is a wonderful place for fellow believers to come and receive great advice and encouragement during times of sadness and heartache. I would like to ask those of you who have recently experienced the goodness and blessings of God to share with us
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on November 3, 2009
  • Are You Becoming Like Noah?

    Are You Becoming Like Noah? Fresh Manna 2009ยฉ by Pastor Tim Burt Our daughter and son-in-law, who are now Pastors of their own church, took off to a conference this week. So, Renee and I have our two granddaughters Madeline and Macy. With them spending the week with us, itโ€™s amazing how quickly I feel like a dad again. I loved being a dad โ€“ and ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 29, 2009
  • Only Appropriate Anger is Appropriate!

    Only Appropriate Anger is Appropriate! Fresh Manna 2009ยฉ by Pastor Tim Burt There was a time in my life many years ago, that I would occasionally erupt like a volcanic eruption. I am ashamed of those days. I do not and have not let that happen in my life in a great many years. Anger is a valid emotion but one that has a boundary and whose line can
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 28, 2009
  • Uproot the Fears in Your Life

    Uproot the Fears in Your Life Fresh Manna 2009ยฉ by Pastor Tim Burt Youโ€™ll find that in every garden, weeds that you never planted spring from the ground. Your heart and your garden are the same. Weeds โ€“ fears, worries, and evil imaginations invade your heart and mind that seem to come from nowhere. Jesus in trying to teach His disciples about ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 27, 2009
  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    chaz345:I don't need to have read romance novels to know that women often marry the man they think they can turn their fiancee into. And it was someone else who said that element is present in romance.As for the expectations, I think you maybe picked a bad example since sex between husband and wife is Biblically commanded. It's an objective thing ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 27, 2009
  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    chaz345: mzjh20:These guys (or gals) are usually troubled or angry but because of the love of this woman (or man), they suddenly change. Yes, it's cheesy and fake and no one believes it's real.Really? Actually I think it's quite common that a woman marries a man expecting to be able to change significant aspects about who he is. How many romance
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 23, 2009
  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    No it's not the same in terms of impact on the world.&nbsp; But it can be harmful, I think that's the distinction Chaz is making...and Alpha. Women &amp; men are different.&nbsp; Women are touched more so by the emotional, men the visual.&nbsp; As a rule of thumb.&nbsp; So when a women is reading romance novels that portray these ''perfect'' men ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 23, 2009
  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    JaneFW:On another note, I'm back again to wondering about these ''churches across the country'' where apparently the weekly sermon is about nothing more than bashing men for using porn.&nbsp; Again .. I have never, ever (in over 3 years) attended a sermon by my pastor where he has ''bashed'' either gender, whether specifically men or women, for ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 22, 2009
  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    formerlyalpha:Barb Larrimore, who with her husband co-authored ''His Brain, Her Brain'', said, '' I realised that my need for conversation is as intense as his need for sexual intimacy.'' That's a pointer to the different pathway a woman takes in her quest for pleasure. Have you read this book Alpha?&nbsp; I want to purchase it to read.&nbsp; ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 22, 2009
  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    I guess my point was that God will deal w/whatever sin that has a hold on us.&nbsp; The ''church'' is God's people.&nbsp; Do we trust that God direct His people?&nbsp; That He moves them to help one another, etc? I choose (and this is something I do actively...daily, sometimes minute by minute) to have faith.&nbsp; That God is going to deal ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 21, 2009
  • Re: porn vs. romance novels

    I agree that some romance novels can be as destructive to a marriage as porn.&nbsp; I don't agree, however, that there is a hypocrisy in this area.&nbsp; I do believe it is addressed by our Father who disciplines His children.&nbsp; I believe the HS convicts His daughters every bit as much as He does His sons.&nbsp; He does this through women's
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 21, 2009
  • My 11 y/o daughter thinks she has only 2 years to live!

    Have you heard about the world coming to an end in 2012?&nbsp; Apparently it's something to do with the Maya calendar (I did a quick search online the other day...didn't have much time).&nbsp; Although my 11 y/o said some guy who predicted 9/11 is predicting the end of the world in 2012.&nbsp; I explained to her that when I was a kid there were ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 13, 2009
  • Re: Prayer Request: brain surgery

    I'd be honored to keep you in my prayer Gabby. May God's will be clear to you &amp; peace that transcends all understanding be yours.&nbsp;
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 7, 2009
  • Re: Wait......

    So funny this came up.&nbsp; I was just talking to my DH last night about his thoughts.&nbsp; I asked him what he was thinking...he said he was thinking about what he was doing.&nbsp; I asked if he ever thinks of many things at once &amp; he said no.&nbsp; He said for example when he is changing the oil he's thinking about that...not about the ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on October 7, 2009
  • Re: HAPPY BIRTHDAY, POOHGIRL!!!!

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY POOH! :) Wishing you many&nbsp;blessings through another year on this side of heaven!
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 16, 2009
  • Re: problems with father-in-law

    Hi Amymina - welcome to the forums.&nbsp; :) I can see why you feel the way you do hearing his voice on the machine.&nbsp; What he did to you is deplorable.&nbsp; I'm not sure I understand the last part of your post.&nbsp; Your husband is taking the position that he himself will reach out to his Dad but he will continue the boundary of keeping ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 16, 2009
  • Re: My best friend's husband is having an affair

    In putting myself in your shoes I would let him know that you will be calling his wife to talk to her about this on a certain date &amp; time...he has until then for her to find out from him...which is the right thing for him to do. He's still seeing this woman?&nbsp; Does he plan on breaking up the marriage?&nbsp; When is your friend ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 16, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    I've been struggling.&nbsp; But I know God's got a plan!&nbsp; Seeing the doctor on Friday. &nbsp;
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 15, 2009
  • Re: Finding Balance in a Hectic Family Life

    Hi finishwell - welcome to the forums! I can completely relate to what you are saying.&nbsp; I have struggled with how to balance things for the last 9 almost 10 years!&nbsp; Our pastor has been touching on this the last few sermons.&nbsp; The most important thing is that we are prioritizing our lives.&nbsp; Christ comes first, our spouses 2nd ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 15, 2009
  • Re: Dreams...Surreal...

    First, I'm so sorry for your terrible loss. My Dad died 27 years ago yesterday.&nbsp; To this day I still have vivid dreams of him.&nbsp; Often times he's alive but I can't find him.&nbsp; Sometimes I find him before I wake up, most of the time I don't.&nbsp; They're tough dreams to have.&nbsp; Occasionally God blesses me with a wonderful dream ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 15, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    So I'm feeling better each day.&nbsp; I still have slight vertigo &amp; light headedness so w/that comes the nausuea but I'm getting better that way. But my moods are still pretty wacked.&nbsp; Last night &amp; this morning I was so irritable which I absolutely hate.&nbsp; I've noticed shortly after taking the Prozac in the morning my mood ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 11, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    Dallas, you are awesome!&nbsp; Thank you! I can get the tomatoes from my inlaws garden, we get all the free eggs we can eat from their chickens &amp; really everything you shared is very reasonable in price.&nbsp; So if I eat this stuff over time I'll stop craving sugar?&nbsp; That would be awesome.&nbsp; My inlaws are notorious for sending ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 11, 2009
  • Re: You Have A God-Given Destiny!

    Pt Four: Your Destiny-A Blessed Place Fresh Manna 2009ยฉ by Pastor Tim Burt People can experience tough times for a diversity of reasons at any time. Times can get even tougher when the economy gets like itโ€™s been. When times get toughโ€”especially economicallyโ€”people often get this feeling like they are floundering; theyโ€™re wandering, grasping for ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 11, 2009
  • Re: Teen son and girlfriend

    Oh my, I can so relate Jane.&nbsp; Even now we have to hold those two back from seeing one another so much.&nbsp; It's funny I said they were doing good &amp; we were able to relax a bit on the boundaries a bit but then we realized our DD was taking total advantage when she decided all on her very own that she would invite her b/f out to watch a ...
    Posted to Parenting Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 10, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    Renae610:Hi BecauseHelives, I just want to make sure you're aware that if the thyroid isn't working optimally&nbsp; or if you're deficient in Vit. D, that can cause depression and difficulty losing weight.&nbsp; I've taken supplements for both and what a difference it is making! For too long people have thought weight loss was simply about calorie
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 10, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    No please, PAHLEEZE ramble Dallas!&nbsp; You've hit on some things I struggle w/BIG time.&nbsp; Sugar &amp; all that jazz.&nbsp; I know, know, know I need to change my diet, but it's difficult to find reasonbly priced healthy foods here. Recently one of our grocery stores started stocking glutten free foods...3 whole isles worth of the stuff for ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 10, 2009
  • Re: Church Drummer

    eprayer1: Yes, honey I have been working on myself, I attend Bible Study at another church and attend group meetings. We've had several issues that I have brushed aside in the past. I am a little tired of that.I tell my husband eveyday I love him and compliment him too.I understand there maybe some issue with myself&nbsp;I could change but it's ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 10, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    My oldest was on Lexapro for a time but it was so incredibly expensive!&nbsp; She went back on the Prozac &amp; stuck with it &amp; it worked well for her. Best &amp; Dallas do you mind me asking what you pay for Lexapro?&nbsp; If Prozac doesn't work I'd like to try it but I'm not sure we can afford it w/the upcoming private insurance we'll need ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 10, 2009
  • Re: stale

    Gabby50: bestofky: Leeza10: DEAR ALL, &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; what is goin an?&nbsp; i meen this place is gotten stale.&nbsp; what i meen is its not active anymore.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; well anyhow i was googlin other farums and well,&nbsp;i found this one called gracecentered.com&nbsp; ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 9, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    Renae610:As for depression, BecauseHeLives, even though the cause of symptoms can be traced to a trauma, your body has still been affected. I recommend finding a doctor in your area, maybe a natural doctor, who has EDS or BioMeridian Biofeedback. It will find what deficiencies your body has developed due to this chronic stress and what supplements
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 9, 2009
  • Re: stale

    Leeza10: DEAR ALL, &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; anyhow i was googlin other farums and well,&nbsp;i found this one called gracecentered.com&nbsp; and it seems very active.&nbsp; i dont post alot but i do read alot so they are relly active over there. i even saw some familar faces there
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 9, 2009
  • Re: Church Drummer

    It sounds like your marriage is important to your hubby as he's willing to change churches to safe guard your marriage.&nbsp; That's a very good sign! :) Have you considered pastoral or Christian counseling?&nbsp; I suppose in searching for a new church it will be tough to get pastoral care but there are links even on this website for you to find ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 9, 2009
  • Re: You Have A God-Given Destiny!

    Pt Three: Your Destinyโ€“Your Reward! Fresh Manna 2009ยฉ by Pastor Tim Burt I was terrorized! I was nine years old, standing outside the principalโ€™s office and waiting to be called in to be disciplined. It was the most scared I had ever been in my life up to that point and time. The principal was not a nice person. She gave a lot of mean stares ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 9, 2009
  • Re: Going off of Effexor

    I'm working with my doctor to go off of the one &amp; onto the other.&nbsp; So far the symptoms are fairly normal &amp; today I do feel somewhat better.&nbsp; I feel less urpy, which is good.&nbsp; The worst symptom is one that I forgot to mention before which is I can't sleep!&nbsp; So I'm going to call the doctor today &amp; ask for some sleeping
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 9, 2009
  • Re: The Final Countdown!

    PearsandGrapes: dallasapple: YAY!!! &nbsp; My youngest starting 8th grade on Monday next..and my middle starting first semester college(community) end of August (FINALLY!! HE TOOK THE PROVERBIAL YEAR OFF!!!)./... Just spent $800 for his books and $500 for his classes(10 hours just under full time)...I KNOW not expensive but its like ...
    Posted to Parenting Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 8, 2009
  • Re: The Final Countdown!

    Today was the first day of school for my oldest 3.&nbsp; DD#1 is going into her senior year &amp; is really excited.&nbsp; It seems like just yesterday I was a senior in HS...blah!&nbsp; Time goes by so fast!!&nbsp; She is going to be taking one college course &amp; will be a TA this year as well...not sure for which class though!&nbsp; She's ...
    Posted to Parenting Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 8, 2009
  • Re: September 8: National Keep Your Child at Home Day

    This was a debate in our home over the weekend. :) I read the transcript &amp; wasn't alarmed by anything said by the president.&nbsp; My H is completely against this though...he feels the president has no business taking time up on a busy first day for our kids.&nbsp; He doesn't have a lot of trust &amp; faith in our president &amp; quite frankly
    Posted to Parenting Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 8, 2009
  • Re: Teen son and girlfriend

    It sounds like you all are establishing boundaries quite nicely.&nbsp; It's sort of like exploring new territory don't you think?&nbsp; If you feel uncomfortable w/the relationship than maybe they need more boundaries.&nbsp; Such as only seeing one another a certain length of time a certain number of times a week.&nbsp; Taking a cooling off ...
    Posted to Parenting Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 8, 2009
  • Going off of Effexor

    I talked w/my doctor &amp; went off of the Effexor to switch to Prozac.&nbsp; I was taking 120 mg of the Effexor slow release stuff...xr, cr or something like that.&nbsp; So she backed me off of the Effexor slowly over the last 10 days&nbsp;&amp; yesterday I started the Prozac. I've been so sick.&nbsp; I feel nauseous,&nbsp;I have ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 8, 2009
  • Re: Please pray for Broken_Heart

    Praying for Broken_Heart &amp; her marriage. May God's peace be upon her!
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 8, 2009
  • Re: Church Drummer

    Hi eprayer.&nbsp; Welcome to FL Forums.&nbsp;&nbsp;:)&nbsp; What is your husband's response to your feeling uncomfortable w/what is going on?
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by BcauseHeLives on September 8, 2009
  • Re: What do you think???

    I agree.&nbsp; With pretty much everything that was said. The health of her ma<