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hoplon:Regarding scriptural interpretation there is much to say. To begin with the majority of Christians today have opted for some of the many watered down versions of the Bible available today. Few self confessed Bible believing Christians really know the word, and fewer still have a good working knowledge of the translational errors ...

hoplon:No, I clearly stated that The Lord only has the correct insight, and we must defer to His word. You stated ''Evidently you feel that you have the only insight.  I disagree.'' If your disagreement is that you feel that my insight is not the only one, I did not say that it was, I said that His insight was the only one and that ours is ...

A large number of desire problems in marriage, sexual, emotional or otherwise, have to do with a reflected sense of self rather than a true sense of self.  IOW, a lack of sexual desire from ones spouse may have one feeling undesired when in actuality that says more about the one not desiring than the one not desired.  If you need to be ...

One more point regarding integrity that I want to make. If she's going to require him to meet her arbitrary standard for something to earn ''adult time'' then both he and she will be disappointed once that ''adult time'' happens.  He because he's paying for the ''adult time'' and won't feel loved or desired by his wife, which is what we ...

hoplon:I asked because I don't remember seeing anything in Sanderson's post which would indicate an integrity deficit.So you don't see his wife blaming his behavior for her lack of desire as an integrity issue?  It seems to me that she is responsible for the way that she chooses to feel and that there is probably little he could do to improve

hoplon:What is your definition of ''Integrity Issue''?Having the integrity to face the normal issues found in every marriage.

You cannot earn sex with your spouse, nor should you have to.  A lack of sexual intimacy in marriage is an integrity issue.

I found that learning to stand with Christ and becoming more desirable and appearing less needy helps as well.KW

Fact:  In every marriage there is a high drive (HD) and a low drive (LD) spouse.Fact:  In every marriage the LD spouse controls the sex whether they want to or not.KW

Masturbation in and of itself is not sin.  There are things that are almost always associated with masturbation that are sin, porn, lust, sinful fantasies, etc.  The thing is that you're going to be less resistant to some of those things w/o physical release.IF you have the self-control to avoid the sinful behavior there is no reason why ...

If your wife is an honorable and trustworthy woman and has good boundaries then I don't see a problem with it personally.

chaz345:In short is amounts to pretty much anything that both partners enjoy and agree to is OK.I'd phrase it a little differently.Any non-sinful thing that both partners enjoy and agree to is OK.

Hello Holten & Chaz.  I see you two are still around...KW

I'm done with this.  I explained why I think two mature Christians can come to different conclusion on this.  I don't consider anyone less of anything for voting their conscience.  In fact I applaud all who did.  Regardless for whomever they voted.Blessings!KW

StillHopeful123: Ky Wildcat: StillHopeful123: Abortion? Yes, Commandment 6: ''You shall not murder.'' Great.  Guns fit right there as well. Abortion is murder of innocent people. Gun ownership is not.I agree.  Handguns however are used in crime and murder and statistics prove that fewer guns mean fewer lost lives (No I'm ...

StillHopeful123: Ky Wildcat: Me too! Who are you to judge someone else's servant? To his own master he stands or falls. And he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.   What makes you think I am judging you?I'm just quoteing the Apostle Paul?  Why'd you ask that question?