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  • Re: Mother-in-law and forgiveness, I think it really is unforgiveable

    First of all I am so sorry you and your daughter had to deal with such an outburst of hatred. Second, I'd like to say that this is no way unforgiveable. In fact, you might be able to be closer because of it. Sound crazy?? yeah it does. Before anything can be resolved your husband has to realize he is the LEADER of HIS family. After God comes ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on September 29, 2009
  • Re: Help me understand and how do I remove the sadness

    I am sorry you are going through this trial, but I want you to remember trials are really opportunies also. Opportunies to strengthen you marraige. It seems like your wife is going through some sort of mid life crisis brought on by the death and illness of her parents. Not that telling her that will help.... that will seem like more of an effort ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on September 27, 2009
  • Re: 6 year relationship and not sure what to do?

    You spoke of you relationship...... is it a marriage? Or something else? Sorry I am confused.
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on September 23, 2009
  • Re: Help. . .Is this really a friendship

    The fact that your exboyfriend is living with a woman while&nbsp;''courting'' you&nbsp;(not&nbsp;showing much&nbsp;respect for her or marriage) should let you know his character. If you continue to ''dance with the devil'' he will eventually find you at a weak moment and you will do things you never thought you could. And lose more than you ever ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on September 23, 2009
  • Re: Hanging on.... but for what?

    I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Nothing worthwhile is easy.&nbsp; That's why we pray for strength and mercy and grace and guidance.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 15, 2009
  • Re: Hanging on.... but for what?

    Hey Tim, &nbsp;I don't need details..... but I would like to know if you are doing okay. Cindy
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 14, 2009
  • Re: Actions: guided from Thinking, or Feeling

    spareparts, I'm sorry if no one responded to your post of the same topic. These forums are very hot and cold. Sometimes other topics are getting the attention, and some times none of the topic are getting any attention. I have&nbsp;seen this topic discussed serveral times before and you are right many people use ''happiness'' as an excuse for ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 13, 2009
  • Re: C ya round

    You will be missed greatly.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 10, 2009
  • Re: Prayer and the Bible in School Districts

    c.pruitt, I wasn't talking about bringing the TEACHING of the Bible back in public schools. Or having a teacher led prayer in the classroom. I was addressing how&nbsp;some individuals have been treated when they prayed or read their own Bible during their break. Not the same subject at all. I am in close to 100 schools every year and there are alot
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 10, 2009
  • Re: Prayer and the Bible in School Districts

    Hot Ice, I plan to&nbsp;STAND firm. Not with hate or ''in your face'' but with love and all the faith that I will prevail. I will just claim my rights as a christian to observe my God in the manner I chose. And pray for those that don't&nbsp;understand why I do what I do. &nbsp;We will see what the future brings.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 8, 2009
  • Prayer and the Bible in School Districts

    A friend of mine works in the transportation&nbsp;office of our school district. She was on break, in an empty conference room, praying out loud. Not screaming or yelling..... just praying. Later, she was called into her bosses office and written up for ''praying in place&nbsp;where a parent might have come in and heard her''.&nbsp; Some of her ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 7, 2009
  • Re: Prayers for my wife's job

    I missed this post when it was first written. My husband''s workplace is a mess. Only the ones that will lie, steal, and bear false witness&nbsp;for the Director are promoted, get overtime, or have any job security. Rediculous!&nbsp;And I'm sure you know which side my Husband falls on....&nbsp;He wouldn't give a false statement about an incident ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 7, 2009
  • Re: Hanging on.... but for what?

    Many, many prayer for you and your family. I am sorry I didn't respond about your trip to San Antonio..... I missed the post until today. We would love to meet you and your family. We live outside of Houston, a few hours down I-10. As far as how we are doing.... hmmm. It is strange. WE are doing fine. More than fine, awesome. But it has been a ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 7, 2009
  • Re: Need Prayer

    Librarymom, You are in my prayers.&nbsp; Our marriage reached a crisis during our 28th year. It is rough at any time, but after so much time and memories together, I think some times it is harder to deal with. A side note, we made it through and are much stronger. Stronger in our faith and in each other.&nbsp;
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on August 5, 2009
  • Re: What a Day

    I think it means more of a calm still. As stay calm in the middle of the storm.&nbsp; I don't know what you are going through(don't need to) but I do know God is there with you. He knows tomorrow, trust Him.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 27, 2009
  • Re: Why would my mom say these hurtful things to me?

    DO NOT LET YOUR MOTHER BELITTLE YOUR (future)HUSBAND!!! Unless you intend to move back in with her after your second divorce. We all have faults but that doesn't give your mother the right to take rudely. Cut her off in mid sentence if she says anything mean or ugly about your marriage or your future husband. Not hatefully.... but firmly. Let ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 23, 2009
  • Re: Have you buttered your spouse's bread lately?

    nancy,&nbsp;&nbsp; I can't figure out if the sex is SOO good that you feel like you made the right choice to give up your kids, the church, and your great husband, or if you are sad about your choice.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 23, 2009
  • Re: Have you buttered your spouse's bread lately?

    Wow I turn my back for a little while and butter turns to sex and then to chocolate!
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 23, 2009
  • Re: Have you buttered your spouse's bread lately?

    Right now we are both home all day. And we are both&nbsp;very buttery! Sometimes it can be a smile, one of the silly ways we say ''I loveYou'', a glass of tea when it isn't expected, or rubbing his sore shoulders. Grand displays are great... but it is the EVERY DAY butter that seems to smooth the best.&nbsp;
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 21, 2009
  • Re: Flirting husband????

    I might just make sure we go in our car.... and make sure I&nbsp; have the keys. If he starts anything that is embarrassing, I might just ..... leave. Later I would tell him he wasn't acting like he was with me, so I decided to act like he wasn't with me.&nbsp; But seriously, all these funny suggestion are meant to get his attention and to make ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 21, 2009
  • Re: Flirting husband????

    I read my post to my husband and he had a different idea. Again, I don't reccomend this one AT ALL. But I thought it was funny to hear his(a male)&nbsp;suggestion. He said you should&nbsp;''haul off&nbsp;and slap the crap out of him'' in front of everyone. I guess that means that my husband doesn't think your husband is acting appropriately. My ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 20, 2009
  • Re: Flirting husband????

    Do you and your husband belong to a church?&nbsp; He is in the worst need of a mentor.&nbsp; How does he think you feel knowing that your husband is giving other women the attention that belongs to you? Tell him you need his attention and affection, and that you don't want to get it from someone else. You could, but you don't want it from someone ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 20, 2009
  • Re: Debunking the Myths of Marriage

    God does tell us who to marry..... the bible is full of descriptions of the perfect mate.&nbsp; Is it one particular person? I don't think so. But it is someone that is like minded, someone you will be ''equally yoked'' to, and maybe Songs of Solomon suggest it is someone we are physically drawn to. I agree that it is wise to know someone a few ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 20, 2009
  • Re: Well, got me a problem

    A request for prayer is just that.............. not a request for advice, which would require additional information. God knows DIC's needs, all DIC needs from us is support in the form of prayer.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 13, 2009
  • Re: Catching Up

    I have been wondering if anyone has heard from or about some of the old posters that seem to be missing in action. Like TarheelLady..... savedsinner...... TenderWarrior.......gocartone...... justbetrayed to name a few. There are more I am just too tired to think of more.
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 12, 2009
  • Re: Hanging on.... but for what?

    Hey TimD, I hope things are improving in your home.&nbsp; Still praying for ya'll.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 12, 2009
  • Re: Well, got me a problem

    Praying for our Lord's love and power to surround you and your family.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 12, 2009
  • Re: Christian ese Humor

    .....and then there are those who use certain phrases to express their love of God and their trust in God and their concern and love for others. I do know the phonies but I also know the genuine hearted...... it's not that hard to tell the difference, even if they use the same words. The translations are funny, but while they are&nbsp;true for ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on July 2, 2009
  • Re: Catching Up

    This past year has been a doo-sy! Where to start. How about after Hurricane Ike. We had minimal damage, but before we could do much, my Husband, Bob, had a heart attack and a triple bypass(Oct.1st). Long story short, serveral things happened to put him in the right hospital, right floor hooked up to a I.V. when he had the ''big heart attack''. If ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 30, 2009
  • Re: husband's facebook friend makes me uncomfortable

    Not to be a wet blanket..... but you should have his login code (as he should have yours). SAYING he is going to delete her.... and deleting her,&nbsp;and not adding her back are two different things.&nbsp; These coworker friendships can sneak up on good, truly good people.&nbsp; Don't be paranoid, but check his friends list&nbsp;every once in a ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 29, 2009
  • Re: Another Thing

    Dallas, I guess you husband doesn't realize how lucky he is that you get attached to things.&nbsp; Tell him it's probably the reason he is still around! (just kidding)
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 28, 2009
  • Re: The Devil made me do it

    Well stated alpha
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 27, 2009
  • Re: Please Tell Me Im Normal

    Lomist (being still) I have missed you. Hope you and yours are doing fine.
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 27, 2009
  • Re: Please Tell Me Im Normal

    Yes Dallas You are normal. I love spending time with my Husband. We are apart only for work, and if something comes up, workwise on the weekend, we go together or not at all. He is off for about 8 weeks on workmen's comp. right now so we are ''attached at the hip'' (my sister's phrase) and we love it. I just spent 9 hours away from my Husband. ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 27, 2009
  • Re: The Devil made me do it

    If I heard the phrase ''she has a spirit of...'' I would think they meant HER spirit was ......&nbsp;&nbsp; Not that another spirit has control, that ''she had an attitude of....'' I used to blame EVERYTHING on satan and his demons. Then it hit me one day....... we have an inborn sinful nature, we don't really need a demon to come along and zap ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 26, 2009
  • Re: Family Most Important

    So many people learn this only after a crisis(that would include me). Consider yourself ahead for realizing this before a major problem. It is easier to correct if you are not trying to put&nbsp;a family&nbsp;back together. I was lucky, many aren't.&nbsp; God is wonderful. I saw a billboard that read:&nbsp;&nbsp; The wedding was ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 24, 2009
  • Re: husband had a "phone" relationship with ex-wife

    wwjd, I think we basically agree. The length of time needed to regain trust depends on serveral things.&nbsp;The severity of the trust breech, the length, the willingness to repent and become transparent, and the heart of the one that is trying to forgive. Although the breech of trust described here wasn't as severe in nature, it did last 8 ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 24, 2009
  • Re: husband had a "phone" relationship with ex-wife

    It sounds to me like your husband just didn't THINK....duh. I would say in my opinion, that it really didn't mean that much to him. It was still a dumb (and dangerous) thing to do, but I would bet you ended their contact soon enough to avoid any marriage threatening consequences.&nbsp; If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't buy into the doubts that ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 23, 2009
  • Re: husband had a "phone" relationship with ex-wife

    One more thought...... by getting mad and not answering a few questions, he is making this a much bigger issue. What is he hiding. that he can't answer a few questions??&nbsp; &nbsp;Is he still keeping secrets from me?? Are my feelings not important enough for him to comfort me with a little information?? See how a betrayed mind works. He ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 22, 2009
  • Re: husband had a "phone" relationship with ex-wife

    wwjd, I think you overlooked the part about the calls lasting 8months. This is IMO not okay. Since there were no children there is no reason to remain ''Buddies'' with someone you previously shared a life(and bed) with. The way he handled it was deceitful and hurtful. If he wants to rebuild trust he needs to&nbsp;show as much respect to his ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 22, 2009
  • Re: Hanging on.... but for what?

    Tim, Good! Maybe you gave her something to think about... shook her up. Since you are trying to be transparent and not giving her any real reason to continue the mistrust, it is time for her to ''man-up'' or I guess it would be more accurate to say ''woman up'' and give you and&nbsp;the marriage the grace and mercy (that she so eagerly accepted ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 10, 2009
  • Re: Hanging on.... but for what?

    Tim, I have tried to be encouraging by telling you to be ''the man/husband God wants you to be'' and I think that is the way to handle your wife. But I think in this situation, my definition needs to be exspanded. You have tried to be nice and considerate..... continue to be. But when she starts in on you, I think you need to cut it off with a ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 9, 2009
  • Re: Answers Needed

    If is walks like a duck.... and quacks like a duck..... I personally find every example you have given UNACCEPTABLE behavior for a married person, male or female. Of course her friends will agree that her actions are innocent and harmless..... or they wouldn't be her friends. Friends, by the way, that would also help her cover up her ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on June 8, 2009
  • Re: Let's try to not ignore the parenting forum

    I know I should try to help people in the parenting forum, but I am trying to ignore the problems I am having with my own kids!!!!! I guess I feel inept and totally burnt out when it comes to kids. My sons&nbsp;are 27 yrs. and soon to be 25 yrs. Oh, how I yearn for the terrible twos!!!! I will be a good girl and see if I can offer any sage ...
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 27, 2009
  • Re: Need your prayers Marriage in Serious Trouble

    I don't get the impression you are any happier with the way thing have been either. Tell him!! Let him know that you want change too. Then work towards that change. You were not showing him enough affection.... tell him you were not happy either, but you didn't know how to handle it. Tell him you want his affection. I think you both are on a ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 27, 2009
  • Re: Is it wrong if we are seperated?

    I agree that you must pray about it and follow your own heart. You are his wife! As long as you don't think you are exposing yourself to harm.... (contracting a disease) I believe you need to maintain physical communication with your husband. Sexual contact is a powerful bond. One God meant to cement two people together. I am not saying ''fake ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 27, 2009
  • Re: Hanging on.... but for what?

    I haven't had time to post much lately. My Husband is home alot more due to the pain in his shoulder. He is scheduled for surgery on June 4th. He really doesn't like me on the computer much.... he is very posessive of my time. I love it.... but it does drive me crazy at times!!! Like when he wants me to watch some 60 year old war movie with him for
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 23, 2009
  • Re: Men and Mid-life Crisis/depression

    Just so you won't lose heart, my husband and I are on the other side of his ''mid-life crisis''. We almost didn't make it. He needs a christian councilor or a christian male friend to talk to him. Someone he looks up to helps. But also someone that will ''tell it like it is''.&nbsp; Kinds like ''man up''. You need to show him what he is leaving ...
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 19, 2009
  • Surviving Mother's Day

    I have discovered the way for Mothers to survive Mother's Day.&nbsp; Honor your Mother and expect nothing. It may sounds like sour grapes or like I am acting like a martyr, but I was told this&nbsp;many years ago and if I look back I have decided it is true.&nbsp; Sad but true. I hope all the Mothers reading this have a wonderful Mother's Day. If
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 10, 2009
  • Re: Infidelity

    The first step is to repent.... meaning a turning away from. Stop anything thar could even possibly make you think of cheating. I am talking about even your thoughts.... take them captive. Read your bible.... especially the verses about being forgiven and washed clean. Take claim to those verses. If there is something thar might come back to hurt
    Posted to Women's Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 6, 2009
  • Re: Can You Believe?

    With the info we have I agree with DIC, filling the need of good christian male companionship is important...... but so is family and wife time. One doesn't cancel out the need for the other.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 4, 2009
  • Re: Pastors Sermon and my reaction

    We are in agreement&nbsp; ;O)
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 4, 2009
  • Re: Pastors Sermon and my reaction

    Our Pastor claims we pay him to ''Pastor''. He would ''preach'' anyway as he has been called by God to do so.
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 4, 2009
  • Re: Pastors Sermon and my reaction

    Are you agreeing with the idea that pastors and preachers are not to address beliefs that have NOW become political? Like abortion and homosexuality and even adultry? &nbsp;
    Posted to Family Forum (Forum) by Bob'sRib on May 4, 2009
  • Re: Lonely Wife

    If you need to find a interest, I'm sure you could volunteer in a school or hospital or something else in the city your husband works in. This is&nbsp; NOT normal. A married person, man or woman, has no right to a secret life. This ''arrangement'' is not the foundation to build a long lasting marriage on. Get i