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I had written some time ago at the beginning of the year about my husband... I found out he was texting and talking to other women and I was currently pregnant and due with my son...He had sex invitations... He had kissed a woman.. He had sexual stories on his phone with other women...  He had a made up name and a  story... He had been doing it for a year... We decided to stay together and get help... During that time I caught him talking to one of the women again and she confirmed everything to me... At that time I asked him to leave... he came back after being out for 2 weeks... A month after that I heard a message on his phone to this so called person he called himself... he denied it... So, I made an appointment with a mental health counselor... The dr gave us a diagnosis and was going to help us deal with this... 3 weeks later I found out he had asked some girl on Facebook to text him... Then, I asked him to leave indefinitely... That he needed to find help and then we would see what would happen... About a week and a half later I logged into his facebook and he was chatting with a girl from our church... He was flirting with her and telling her how beautiful she was and then he made up a story as to why we were separated... at that point and time I made it very clear to him that this was not going to work.. He gave me all the excuses of he wasnt doing anything wrong just chatting that he hadnt slept with her or gotten anyone pregnant what was the big deal...

I have never felt loved or wanted by my husband... We have two beautiful boys whom we both love but I dont think my husband realizes that he has a problem and needs help... He went to the dr again but only because I told him he was out and that I was done...

I feel as though I can't continue to do this... It has been 8 months of  pain...  and the year before was as though we were just friends...

I think I want out... but, i'm afraid...

What do I do?

You poor, poor dear!  Things are really tough right now for me, (my post: Beyond Frustrated) but I can't imagine going through what you're going through!

After reading your post, I reflected back on the cell phone"emotional affair" my husband had a few months back.  My eventual solution? I shut off our cell phones.  Ever consider this and getting rid of your internet?  I know it's scary to go without these things now-a-days, but it's really not so bad.  Besides, those "pay as you go" plain Jane cell phones will do the job in an emergency.  Maybe this could be an option?

Counseling is a wonderful idea, wish my husband would agree to go.  As awful as things are for you, keep going--don't give up--we can keep going long after we think we can't. God is bigger than our problems.