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Random thoughts on Adoption

Last post 01-28-2009, 8:36 PM by hopeful79. 1 replies.
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  •  01-10-2009, 10:03 PM 39106

    Random thoughts on Adoption

    My husband and I are currently in the process of filling out the necessary paperwork to be able to adopt.  We've been married for nearly 4 years and have been trying to have kids naturally for 3 years.  We've found a really great organization to work with and we have been blessed by a woman named "Joy."  All we have left is to finish our profile or scrapbook and then we'll have everything completed...

    Meanwhile, I have a sister who knows of a woman who wants to give up her baby due to unfortunate circumstances.  She has been talking with this woman to see if she has an adoption plan.  However, her conversations haven't really led anywhere.  I'm sure it's hard to be on that side of the adoption process (the person giving up a child)...but it is so hard to wait if you're childless and wanting children so badly.  It's hard to know how to handle your emotions...excitement, hope, disappointment, sympathy, and sometimes guilt for wanting someone's child so badly.  So far my husband and I have been trying to be faithful to pray for the birthparent(s) having to make adoption plans for their children...that has helped us to be more sensitive to their situation & help manage our emotions.  But it is hard to wait.  I find myself dealing with a range of emotions...

    I find myself thinking of what more I can do...but then I realize, it's in God's hands and that I should be still...and wait on God....

    Anyone else in the adoption process dealing with a range of emotions??

  •  01-28-2009, 8:36 PM 42056 in reply to 39106

    Re: Random thoughts on Adoption

    My husband and I just recently adopted twin girls in August.   I know exactly the range of emotions you are talking about.  I felt the same way.  I was excited, hopeful and at the same time guilty and felt bad for the birthparents too.  Once we met them it was even more complicated because we really clicked with them.  We really love them and have such a heart for them.  While we were in NJ for the 2 weeks (the girls were in NICU for a weeK) we grew close to them.  But when the day came for them to sign TPR we were overcome with such complex emotions.  We were totally in love with our daughters and would have been devastated if they changed their minds, but at the same time we cared so much for them our hearts broke for their loss.  Luckily we still keep in touch through emails and monthly letters and pictures.  I appreciate the sacrifice they made and they still get updates and peace knowing the girls are doing well.  Adoption is very complex. 

    Like you said, it's in God's hands.  And once you are holding your baby you are in awe at how God works and pieces EVERYTHING together.  Wait upon the Lord, He is in control!

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