I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now. We have a good relationship, and finally I've found a true Christian man!...that even wants to start going to church with me, but that's not what this post is about.
Lately, like within the last week or so, he has become Star Trek Cling-on!!! He's so clinging and he's making me feel smothered. I told him this, just this past weekend...that I just needed some space away from him...not that i don't like him, but i'm feeling...well smothered! He said he would respect my wishes and do his own thing.
Now, first lemme point out that I just got hired onto a new job about 2 weeks ago. I'm still in the "fresh" stage there at work. Everyone knows that I'm seeing someone....not that they'd be interested = they are all happily married/engaged. Today, I arrive at work, only to have my boyfriend pull up in his work truck 5 minutes after I did. He said he wanted to make sure I got to work ok (it was pouring rain outside this morning - mix that with rush hour traffic = bad, bad, bad!). It was a nice guesture to make sure I got there ok, but a simple text msg would have done the trick. He then asked something that made me wanna back way off - "can't we go inside and you can introduce everyone to me?" Are you serious!!!!? OMGosh!
I don't know what has come over him...but this week...after he said he'd respect my wishes of giving me my space...he then invades it - - especially at my place of work - - it my work - if anything, respect my wishes and not come to my work. Am I being over-offensive on this?
Maybe this is all part of the dating process...but if he gets any clingier, i'm gonna back away, turn around, and run! Sunday afternoon (this last sunday, b4 i told him i needed space), he took me to a 5*star restaraunt. We both were dressed up from church. Right in the middle of dinner he did two embarassing things: 1) he laughed so loud, as if to get the attention of everyone in the establishment; and 2) right in the middle of everyone then staring at us, like we were mad...he leans over and lies his head down on my shoulder (i'm thinking, omgosh, how pathetic!). Perhaps i'm more mature than he is...sheesh!
I'd like some advice on this...from anyone. Guys are allowed to respond as well as the Ladies! Thnx!
Put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
Colossians 3:12
