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Getting married - Not getting along

Last post 03-02-2009, 11:22 AM by RED SHIFT1. 1 replies.
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  •  12-23-2008, 11:31 AM 37630

    Getting married - Not getting along

    I’ll try to keep this short as to not lose your interest.

     

    I’ve always been a strong willed person, as a child I had a deep sense of right and wrong and had no mercy on anyone who messed up, I was totally unforgiving, etc.  (This goes to show my nature.)  During the past few years as I’ve matured in the Lord I’ve overcome some of those undesirable traits.  I am now 34 and have been independent all of my adult life, not even having a boyfriend since I was in my early 20’s.  I recently became engaged to a wonderful godly man and we both understand the role of submission in the Word.  The issue is, he is almost as strong willed as me and I have a serious problem being told what to do.  I become completely defensive and feel like he’s putting me down or I’m not good enough for him, etc. (That’s only my perception, he never puts me down.)  Because no one has challenged me before, I don’t know how to deal with correction; my family has simply accepted me the way I am.  I know I’m the one who has to grow in this area and become submissive, but I don’t see how it’s possible.  If this doesn’t change, there is no way we can get married, I’d rather be single than unhappy.

     

    We’ve gone through counseling and are going through pre-marital counseling through our church now.  I’m praying for change within me as well.  I suppose we just came to this realization last night that I don’t like being told what to do so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

     

    Be blessed & Merry Christmas

  •  03-02-2009, 11:22 AM 46191 in reply to 37630

    Re: Getting married - Not getting along

    Hmmm..well there are a few things you need to do right now: get over your "strong-willed" attitude.  That, by itself, will eliminate a few problems.  The other is get over the "independent" one too.  If you can't, you need to call off any wedding now.

     

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