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faithey, he's your husband but i pray to god you arent allowing him to sleep w/ you. that isnt god's will for you n i'm sure god is giving you the red lights on that one.

do you think it's god's will for you to sleep w/ him after he slept w/ another woman n now he's deciding to go back to her?  if you do. you're blinded like your husband.

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god's love


in the presence of my enemies

Faithey,

I'm truly sorry that you continue to be hurting. I have been a member of this forum for the past 2 1/2 years and although I do not remember exactly when you joined FL, I do know that you have been a member much of that time, too.  And your situation has changed very little in that time.

God loves YOU, Faithey...please NEVER doubt that.  And IMO, He would never want His precious daughter to hurt so badly.

God does not FORCE anyone to accept His Son as Savior and Lord...He does not and will not FORCE any of us to LOVE Him....it is our choice.

And, Faithey, you cannot FORCE your husband to love YOU the way that you want, need, and deserve to be loved. 

PLEASE, get the books, "Love Must Be Tough" by Dr. James Dobson and "Boundaries In Marriage" by Cloud/Townsend and read them over and over and over again.  God does not want you to be treated like this, Faithey.  No one can take advantage of you without your permission.

Please know that I am NOT suggesting that you "GIVE UP" on your marriage....I'm just suggesting that you give it TOTALLY over to God and let Him control it......If your husband truly WANTS to leave...then there is NOTHING that you can do about it.  Give it over to Christ.....and have PEACE.

Love and Prayers,

bestofky

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"God is more interested in changing US than in changing our circumstances. If we allow God to change us, then He'll guide us in how to change our circumstances."

If we "deserved it", it would not be "MERCY".

Grace0369, thank you for sharing your testimony with me. It is a blessing. I pray that the Lord continues to be lamp on to you and your husband's feet filled with wisdom, knowledge, mercy and grace. I pray a hedge of protection around you both.

Pro31:26, Thank you for your thoughts and input. I will pray over what you have said. Thank you for being forthcoming. It is much appreaciated.

Hot Ice, Thank you for your thoughts, comments and prayers. I cannot say enough what a blessing they are. I so much appreciate them.

BestofKy, I remember you. We have been on the Fl Life Forums about the same length of time. You are abslutely right with regard to my husband, his will, and his choice to leave, if he so decides. These past two years have been of tremendous growth on my part. The Lord has been working with me and I release my husband to Him and our marriage. But, at times, I stumble. But I pray my way through and ask others to come along side of me to pray with me and for me. Thank you so very much.

God Bless,

Faithey

My husband was home when I arrived. In fact he had called me prior to my leaving work to see what time I would be home.  We went out to get some dinner with the boys and came home. Sometimes the tension is thick and others more relaxed. I am constantly praying.

At night, we had a discussion. He started to become  heated. He told me that he feels I do not ask him what he wants, his plans, his dreams, etc. I told him that I had not pursued that in the last seven days in order to give him some space. I apologize if I came across as uncaring. I explained that I have a level of fear and did not want to push. He said that made sense to him and was glad I did not default to everything is fine situation. I told him that I want to be his with and partner. That I want to know what he is thinking and what his plans are. I told him that I want to be very much involved with him and make decisions together. That I would listen to him and give him my thoughts on any situation.

Later own we sat down to watch a movie. He then apologized for treating my unknidly and that he does not want to speak to me in that tone or in that matter. He says that we really can get along but there are issues that we must address and does not want to feel alone in doing so.

I have to bring my fear captive and turn it over to the Lord. I pray for wisdom and strength in speaking up in a Godly manner and truly conversing with my husband. Sometimes I do not ask him questions for fear what his answer will be. This cannot be. I am truly interested and care very much about him and what his feelings are. I want him to feel free in discussing everything anything with me. I want to make him feel that I am concerned and listining.

I want to thank you all once again for your prayers, thoughts and input. They are such a blessing.  

Faithey,

I read most of your posts here & I am so sorry for your pain &what you are going thru. I don't have but a second but I wanted to let you know I am praying for you,...your husband & the kids too. Hang in there. Keep sharing. You need all the support from Christains you can get. This is a great place for that. Stay in church & get as much support from your church famly too. I will continue to pray for you sister. Tell satan to leave,.get out,...that he has NO AUTHORITY over this situation or your husband.

God bless you!

(((((((((((((((((((((((((Faithey)))))))))))))))))))))))))

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Heavenly hugs,
Gayle S. Twinkleyes07,....aka heavenly angel.

".......My grace is sufficient for thee: For my strength is made perfect in weakness....."
2 Corinthians 12:9