Hi Ifoxfirei,
What a blessing it is to be best friends with your hubby! I'm so jealous :)
I can tell you about how my husband and I overcame a long drought in our marriage about 2 years ago. He's never been the ultra romantic type, but I love that kind of stuff. After about 6 months of no lovin' I decided to try something to get the fire going again without coming right out and saying "Hey Cutie, wanna make love?" It took some planning, but I didn't want it to feel forced or rushed when the time came, so this is what I did.
I arranged with relatives to keep our daughter overnight (we only had one child then). Once I had that down, I knew I could go ahead and make other plans. I made a reservation at a semi-fancy restaurant (we were short on cash) and a reservation for later at a local comedy club. I wanted us to have fun and not just eat and stare at eachother, lol. I told him the date and time I wanted him to be available (not revealing all I had in store) and that he should have a decent set of clothes before coming home (he's a carpenter so he gets dirty at work).
Anyway, I went to this website https://www.timefortwo.com/ and they had this great little game to open up communication "An Enchanting Evening". It's not a sex fene type of place either where everything is dirty and about sex. It's about love and romance and communication. Well, the week before our date night I left him a homemade invitation on the bathroom mirror telling him how much I love him and can't wait for our date.
The day of, I shipped him off to work (after I made him his favorite breakfast). Shipped our daughter off, so that I could set the house up and not be pooped out by the time our date began. (I even took a nap!) I rearranged our living room so that the furniture was all against the wall and left the entire living room open. I laid down a blanket (kind of picnic style). I purchased satin sheets at http://www.kinglinen.com/ for super cheap for our bed. I placed candles around the living room, and bedroom and put in red light bulbs. I covered almost everything else up with black or white sheets. I was trying to give those rooms a different feel. I went to the local grocery store and purchased some cheese, fruit, chicken salad, and crackers and put them in the fridge along with our favorite bottle of wine.
When we returned home, I had him wait in the car while I quickly set up our "picnic" with the food, wine, the communication game from Time4Two, lit the candles all around, and put on my new "outfit." When he came in the house he loved the way i set everything up. He was so surprised. We played some of the game with a lot of the questions that were really fun, ate the food, laughed and the night progressed as planned. It was wonderful and it didn't feel forced. It was very natural. From then on, it re-ignited the passion in our marriage.
That's just my personal experience. I'm sure other women on this board have other great ideas :)
