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Yes, indeed .... resisting the enemy in prayer .... while following up that prayer with the action of giving this OW the heave-ho. There cannot be a reconciliation with her in the picture whatsoever. God's hand is stayed due to this willfull enabling of a clear sin. We cannot ask God to bless an action where we are clearly acting contrary to the Word. IMO, this explains why Faithey's situation has remained basically unchanged for so long .... with the kids caught in the middle.
I'm starting to smell a rat, Renae. God would never have "told" Faithey to enable this behavior. If she had been hearing from God .... IMO .... she would have insisted this relationship with the OW be cut off as soon as she was aware of it.
I'm getting a sense in my spirit that Faithey has been deceived from another direction. I'm praying for her.
I can only go by what Faithey has shared on this thread, Renae. This is an outright adulterous and documented abusive case. IMO, this one clearly falls into that 1% category that we discuss over on Pooh girl's thread. I'm not the one to tell Faithey to divorce the dude. I will be the one .... and something tells me there have been others ... to counsel her to separate immediately and get those kids out of this environment. The #1 condition of any attempt at reconciliation would be that he quit being a cake eater and remove the OW immediately. He can do that while in the hospital and undergoing the treatment. Bi-polar or not, there is no excuse for this to have carried on this long.
IMO.
(((Faithey)))
Praying for you!
I have a very good friend whose husband is bi-polar. She's gone through a lot too. It's a very tough desease. My step-sister also suffers with it. It's very common for people with this illness to go off of their meds when they feel better, believing they can manage it on their own.
Press into Jesus Faithey! He is your solid rock!! Praying for peace, joy, hope & strength! Praying for God's wisdom to guide your steps.
You are an incredibly loving wife. Release the guilt to God...confess it to Him. It's not from Him & I'm praying that Gos removes it from you!!
May God bless your efforts in your marriage & bring healing to your hurting heart.
Folks, she didn't ask about how to handle the OW. She has asked and been answered on that before, and may again.
Can you not see that she is distraught about her husband being in the hospital? Can you leave the OW advice out, just for a day? I think she knows very well that what you are all saying is true. but its not on TODAY'S agenda.
Its not like she is covorting about inviting the OW over to babysit or something....this was a one off incident and she allowed it to get the man into the hospital. Golly, every now and then it really is OK to hold back on some things, especially in this case where there have been ample opportunity to minister in the area of the OW, and it has been done, and the kids have been mentioned and advised about.
Let her be clear headed and at peace about the mans condition while he is in the hospital so that when he gets out she can attempt to address some of these other things, which it is high time to do, but not today!
CalvinHobbs:There is a natural guilt anytime we enable sin. This is a work of the Holy Spirit. It's a part of spiritual warfare. Choose to quit enabling the sin and then the Spirit is released to do His work. There SHOULD be a sense of guilt in this matter! Faithey and those precious kids deserve better than this, but Faithey has her role in being codependent. This is not a gender issue, lest anyone start whining about that. I'd say the exact same thing if the genders were reversed.
I can agree with every word of that, and still insist that right NOW, this moment, is NOT the time.
If you were walking around at a funeral doing this about the deceased, ramming whats "right" down everyones throat, while they grieved, it would be similar. Give it a day.
divorce in church: CalvinHobbs:There is a natural guilt anytime we enable sin. This is a work of the Holy Spirit. It's a part of spiritual warfare. Choose to quit enabling the sin and then the Spirit is released to do His work. There SHOULD be a sense of guilt in this matter! Faithey and those precious kids deserve better than this, but Faithey has her role in being codependent. This is not a gender issue, lest anyone start whining about that. I'd say the exact same thing if the genders were reversed.I can agree with every word of that, and still insist that right NOW, this moment, is NOT the time. If you were walking around at a funeral doing this about the deceased, ramming whats "right" down everyones throat, while they grieved, it would be similar. Give it a day.
Understood, but you should also understand the frustration felt by those who continuously urged action to prevent some future meltdown and are now witnessing such a meltdown.
