Diane-I'm so sorry you're having this to go thru as well as the loss of your dad. You are NOT responsible for her behavior. Hopefully, she will get some help for herself, but in the meantime, it's crucial that you take care of you. Don't give up-thre are people who can help, and who care. Have you found someone to help you go thru the grieving? obviously, I don't know anything @ you, but even if you don't have insurance, most mental health centers do sliding fee scale. I think I sent you my ph # a few days ago, but if not, Mary has it. I'm 4 hrs behind you-noon here is 4 pm there. Please call if you want to talk.