Okay, I must be missing something...I hope someone can clear this up for me. Dad's estate lawyer told my brothers and I, that even when someone is excluded from a will, that any money left behind or to come, can be divided up as the recipient deems "morally fit." Shouldn't the deceased wishes be followed, as written in their will? When I questioned this, the lawyer said once the person has died, the money no longer belongs to the deceased. It belongs to the will recipient, and they have to do what is "morally right" if a family member is excluded.
I feel as though there is actually some kind of conspiracy going on here. Why do I have to give money to my brother if Dad didn't want him to have it? Well, I'M NOT GIVING HIM ANYTHING! THAT IS WHAT MY DAD WANTED!! Am I wrong??
Then, my brother says, "Well, it's nice to know what my own father thought of me!" Well, what about what Dad felt like, fighting this disease and being ingored by his 2 sons?
All I know is I miss him terribly. The Sunday morning coffee and donuts, sitting on the swing in his backyard watching the birds, our lunches at Burger King, the daily fishing report of what the guys are catching, our casino trips, and the many phone calls I got during the day, just to pass along a funny event. I don't care about the stupid money. I just miss my Dad. Sorry, I'm ticked off.
Diane

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Diane
Caregiver of Thomas (my Dad,82)
Pleural epithelial meso
dx 11/10
Our battle ended March 16, 2012. Together.

Hi again Diane. This is Rose in Alaka. I hear you loud and clear. Dennis and I hae just agreed to how our wills are to be done-he does't like my brother in law, so doesn't want my sister included, but she's smy only blood relative-I have no kids, and his 4 haven't been warm & fuzzy towards me the past 25 yrs. So Dennis finally agreed to the division I've been suggesting which is 100% to me, then percentages to both sides of our families. If your dad didn't want your brother to have anything, I think that's the right thing to do-it's your decision if you are listed as sole heir-not legally mandated. My beleif is that now you need to write your will the way you want things done-even if it's to a charity or to cancer research. Dennis just got homefrom breakfast w/a friend, and said he backs you up 100%-this is what your dad wanted. If you would like to actually talk-which I would, my cell # is 907=723-0334. We're 4 hrs ahead of MA. Thoughts and prayers to you-be gentle to yourself. Rose