Yesterday on way back from Grief Support (I now go to see my 'old friends' who still go and helped me WORK THRU my periods and phases of grief, and also go to be an encouragement to the 'newbies' who are now new at the going through grief very hard times) .... anyhow, on my way back home, I stopped at my FAV store .... Chico's. Another gal and I entered parking lot abt same time ... she ahead of me .... and as I was walking twd the store, I saw she prob headed there also.... First I said to her, isn't it just TERRIBLE how frequently they get new colors and new styles in and almost all of them are wonderful!

I told her it's good thing my husband died over 2 years ago or else he'd prob kill me or die of heart failure the way I go in and shop there !!!
She responded, " me too!" I then asked her if she was a widow, and she said yes. I told her Marty died June 2009. In another 3 months will be 3 years. She said hers died just abt 2 years ago.

She was wanting some pants to hit her 'just rite'... I said, hey, look at these, these are 'ankle length jeans' .... and she said, yeh, that's what she'd like, but she's 'had kids' and pants fit her OK til she sits down and then funny..... Being so shy like I am, I said, watch this.... see how they fit good legs, ab, and seemingly at waist ... then I sat on edge of display place and lifted back of blouse/sweater up and said, "Look how bulges open at back and can see top of my drawers when I sit".... She laughed and said that's how hers do, but like me, she wears longer tops... Told her that's why I now wear pretty panties ... with lace trip at top, cuz my granddaughters bought some as gifts last 2 years ... don't want to see the tops of the 'granny panties' I used to display at times!! LOL....

Anyhow, we had fun chatting and looking at stuff, then I said to her..... HEY, WANNA BE FRIENDS ! And she said, YES .... She said she'd met one lady who she clicked with , kinda had spark, but had lunch with her and the woman tried to convert her to mormonism.... I told her I'm def not a mormon so she not have to worry abt that. Asked if she wanted to exchange phone #s and get together some time, and she said YES... so, I GAVE HER A HUG and then VERY HURRIEDLY said, "AND, I'M NOT GAY EITHER !" She laughed and said, "Hey, I can tell you're not ... I have a daughter who is!" She wanted to set up a day we'd get together, told her I need get to my calendar at home cuz leaving town for Nev and CA and be back March 20th... she gonna leave town and be back on 19th.... so we exchanged phone nums and set tentative day get together March 21st .... she lives in Mesa AZ and I be there on that day to return to Podiatrist .... I had an ingrown toenail removed yesterday... It was a REAL OWIE before I had it removed, removal painless and today not any pain either....

When the doctor entered the room, I said, "Dr Freed, I am so HAPPY to finally meet you. He looked at me with a big grin and asked, 'why'.... I told him that I used to type his medical transcription for the Surgi Center up until 4 years ago when I retired.... He said, "I always said 'thank you' didn't I?" I told him I knew he did, and he was one of the doctors I did not want to slap and say "hurry up, move along" ... he knew what he had to say and he said it.... Told him he was one of my favs.... ASKED IF HE knew a Dr Mark Wade, Cardiologist ... he said, yes, a good friend of mine... Told him I used to fight over and give the mailroom girl cans of coke to get Dr Wade's dictation ... Used to call him the auctioneer and I KNEW HOW TO TYPE HIM,.... was easy to get his tapes ... lot of girls hated to even try to do Dr Wade... Anyhow, he kissed mt hand on way out and little liar said I was a 'charming lady'.... He's from Philadelphia... told him I think all of us 'east coast folks' all talk fAST.

Back again! Took break cuz my 'new friend' returned my call - she was asleep when I rang her # this a.m. and she ret'd call.... we prob on phone an hour ! Fun lady .... nice to have to add to my friends !

Well, not to say I don't miss Marty cuz I do.... but he obviously isn't coming back, and I must live on and be as happy as I can be.... Luv 2 all. Lois

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Lois, Poolboy's mermaid
Marty was stage 3/4 - pleural meso 3/9/07
fought valiantly 27 months
gone to Heaven June 16, 2009