I am sorry to hear this, this is a very difficult time, to say the least. If being with your Dad when he passes is something you feel strongly about, there is alot of information (especially under Hospice searches) about the dying process. I found it to be quite accurate as a guide to those who would like to be there with a loved one. Not saying everyone takes the same road, they don't, but in my Dads case, anyway, many of the signs were there. And though he lived about 6 days past when they said, I was educated at that point so I knew what was happening through this natural course.
I want to say, that it is OK to not be with your family member when they pass. It does not mean you love them any less!
But, I did find the information on the dying process to be very helpful, since I had made a committment to be with Dad.
I'm remembering how my Dad fell about 2 weeks before he passed. He went into a deep sleep at that point. It seemed as though that was his "turning point", when his legs no longer supported him.
You have my heartfelt support, I will be thinking of you. Take good care.
Caregiver of Thomas (my Dad,82)
Pleural epithelial meso
Our battle ended March 16, 2012. Together.